First of all, because I know that I’ll get some answers like “Go play with your friends” or “Go to the park/mall/movies/whatever” But I can’t. Here is just some extra info that might help weed out the answers I’m NOT looking for. I am 14. I live in a small complex with my two parents who baby me. I am not allowed out of the complex unless it is to go to school. In my complex is a 8 year old who idolizes me, a 3 year old who is spoiled and cries to much, and a 11 year old who doesn’t speak English. No, It is NOT fun to spend all summer with an 8 year old kid and her baby brother, OK? My Mom doesn’t let me have my friends from school over because she claims they ‘distract her’ inside the house, and outside she has to supervise them. and I can’t go to their house because she says she doesn’t know their parents well enough. (I’ve only been their friend for a year.)
Ok. On to the question. My Mom is addicted to WoW. Yes. Addicted. Her only friend of 10 years has been ignoring her and fighting with her for most of those years. —-I Cannot bring them together again, DON’T SUGGEST IT. PLEASE.—- My Dad is a truck driver and goes out of town every summer for the whole summer and when he does, It leaves me alone with my Mom. At first it is great! She works, so I get the whole day to myself to do ANYTHING I want. After first week though, It gets terrible. And It has come to my attention this month, that I most likely have depression from it. My Mom has this guy on WoW who she Is lying to, (saying she is 23, has my name, and the picture she sent him is my sisters) and he calls her Babygurl. I glanced at the computer and the e-mail she was replying to said something like “I’m glad I have your heart. .you’re a great person…etc.” She talks on a voice chat system with him so I cannot even play piano, which I love to do, or even talk to her or else she yells at me. She doesn’t make me supper, and hasn’t been grocery shopping in two months. Thank god my sisters come over every few days and bring me a decent lunch when my Mom is at work. I am VERY tempted to break the discs/hack the account/whatever but I cannot do that. I’m not that kind of person, and even if I was, she would know it was me. I’m the ONLY one who knows her password (Its jumbled letters) She has lightly slapped me for NOT helping her with her game because I was reading, I’m afraid to do anything to her account. How can I get her to spend more time with me? Please. I’m desperate.
Could someone also tell me if I might have depression?
These are my symptoms:
~I sleep either 4 hours a night, or 17 hours (approximately) It differs by the day and if my sisters come over.
~I very rarely have food to eat and when I do eat, I eat A LOT. I’m talking nine chicken fingers, and four hotdogs in two hours.
~I have pains in my upper arms and legs. Sometimes something as slight as pulling a blanket over my head is enough to cause pain/make it sore.
~I get mad a lot. I have typed and erased about seven swears in this question because I just get so pissed. And when my family call me lazy cause I won’t clean the house for my mom when she gets home from work, I am so mad I feel like I want to hit them. I’m NOT fucking lazy. I just don’t respect my mom. Why should I fucking clean her house when she won’t even lift a finger to keep me healthy???? And its PAINFUL for me. I get so fatigued so much from it sometimes I just collapse onto the couch and sleep.
~I don’t do the things I like to anymore. I cannot bring myself to right my story, or to even read anymore. And I feel my intelligence is being affected.
Just incase people think I am exaggerating my ‘horrible summer’ this is my schedule. One for near the beginning of the summer, and one near the end.
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Please help me. I need advice. And yeah, I guess a bit of this was just venting too. I don’t get to vent that much.
your mum has more of the symptoms of depression, she i9s very sad with the life she has and is unfortunately taking it out on you. Though you may in later life suffer from depression, at school talk to a teacher about it.
hmmm well u do seem sorta depressed but not rlly. its seems that you have a medical proplem not so much a psychological one. sorry i cant help with that. good luck.
(btw ur mum definatly has a proplem)
I don’t think having your Mom spend more time "with" you will help unless she were to spend more time for you..that is taking care of you like a Mother should. Not providing you adequate food is a big problem. At 14 you can make some things in the microwave at least, but someone does have to buy it for you.
I can understand that Mom thinks she is protecting you by restricting you to home but you should have friends and activities. Maybe you can research community park programs or YMCA and see if she can arrange someone to take you.
Yes I think you are depressed. All the sleeping is a symptom.
Try to have a serious talk with her. Try to remain as calm and grown up as you can. Tell her how unhappy you are.
Don’t bother her computer. Keep your behavior above board.
I don’t know what WoW is exactly but if Mom is arranging to meet a stranger from the internet, she could be putting herself and you in danger. And if she is not providing adequate food for you and loosing control by slapping you, then there is a serious problem. If this is the case, find an adult you can trust and confide in (minister, teacher) or if the situation is extreme, call protective services.
o0o0o o0o0 o0o0!!! CALL ME!!! wanna be friends? my moms just an over obsessive b!tch who acts alot like ur mom wen it comes to friends nd leaving and stuff. i do the same thing and yeah, depression usually comes from it. email or im me?
Talk to her, or let your sister talk to her for you. If your to scared to do that just do something that will make her notice you, i know its shallow but i once made my mom belive someone kidnapped me and she spent a lot more time with me. And you could be depressed, Tell her that just be like mom i think your driving me into a deep depression and go on about everything you said but DONT let her but in, and when you are done DONT let her answer go to your room, make her come after you.
I would find something that your mother enjoys and try to do it with her. Espeically if it’s outdoors, sports events, movies, shopping, even luch at a restaraunt…get her out of the house with you and try to do something fun where you to can bond…she sounds that she is often lonely and yetfearful of engaging in real outside relationships (out of the fear of being lonely) computer chatting with someone can’t give a person a real sense of bonding thatn with a real human, espeically when people lie and give false info all the time over the net…I would try to use this time otgerher and wawy from the house to build a trusting rapport with her to finally reveal your feelings of depression, or better yet, the time toether you may find that your symptoms become more manageable or luckily disappear altogether, but even so tell her how you felt or are feeling once you have built a stronger elationship with her…..
OK first of all you wrote a ton of stuff I didn’t read all of it ……BUT!!!! I will tell you this, if you find one of your mom’s interested that you may be interested in even if you pretend to for starters, she she will start to find some of your interests that she may have in common, because believe it or not your MOM was once a young girl with the same problems you’re having….It is possible for you to come to a common ground on at least one thing ….and BUILD from there…. GOOD LUCK….Ok I read everything before I submitted yes depression…sounds like your Manic depressive…or bi-polar sometimes you need very little sleep and get very anxious and sometimes your depressive need lots of sleep and hard to get started… the eating thing is part of your self treatment ( a quick fix of fulfillment ) but this all stems from the family life you have right now and if you don’t find a way to help this situation this will need clinical help…..again good luck….Try to get your mom’s attention even if it to shame her into it….your mom sounds like she also is lonely and is looking for the virtual life…. you both can help each other….